Worship Guide
Message Notes
June 8, 2025 | Pastor David Bamberry
Imperfect Family: Getting Real About the Health of Your Home
Week 5: Conflict – Part 2
Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:2 NLT
A Pre-Fight Game Plan
1. We will ACT not react.
Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT—“Don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.
“Nevers” in Relationship Conflict:
• Never put it off.
• Never call names.
• Never raise your voice.
• Never get HISTORICAL.
• Never say “never” or “always”. • Never interrupt.
• Never threaten DIVORCE.
2. We will FOCUS on the GOOD things in each another.
Philippians 4:8-9 NLT—And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me—everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.
3. We APPLY God’s grace.
• We want to be judged by our intentions not our actions while judging others by their actions and not their intentions.
Romans 12:19-21 NLT—Dear friends, never take revenge. Leave that to the righteous anger of God. For the Scriptures say, “I will take revenge; I will pay them back,” says the Lord. Instead, “If your enemies are hungry, feed them. If they are thirsty, give them something to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals of shame on their heads.” Don’t let evil conquer you, but conquer evil by doing good.
Luke 6:27-28 NLT—“But to you who are willing to listen, I say, love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. Bless those who curse you. Pray for those who hurt you.”
4. We will LOVE like God loves us.
• Love never fails, but PEOPLE fail to love.
• Love applied heals the DIVIDE.
1 John 4:8-11 MSG—The person who refuses to love doesn’t know the first thing about God, because God is love—so you can’t know him if you don’t love. This is how God showed his love for us: God sent his only Son into the world so we might live through him. This is the kind of love we are talking about—not that we once upon a time loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to clear away our sins and the damage they’ve done to our relationship with God. My dear, dear friends, if God loved us like this, we certainly ought to love each other.
5. We are COMMITTED to work things out peacefully, personally, and privately.
Peacefully: "Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means." Ronald Reagan
Personally: Choose face to face; avoid texting, even phone calls.
Privately: We don’t discuss it with our friends or parents.
• We own our stuff.
• We call “TIME-OUT” if tempers rise.
• We put “we” before “me” and agree to disagree.
• We are quick to apologize.
• We are quick to forgive.
• We are quick to RESTORE the relationship.
1 Peter 5:8 NLT—Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour.
